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Wednesday, 23 July 2008

No Mess just STRETCH!

Stretching is easily the most underrated exercise ever devised. Even though it is often more relevant to your daily life than most exercises. Take for instance the fact that stretching in the morning can improve your flexibility and agility up to 30% in a day; you can’t say that about arm curls, or steppers. In fact a good stretch for long periods of time is work out all of its own The yoga and Pilates trend may have made a lot of people more aware of this, but many are still in the dark.

It’s easy to get disheartened if you don’t have time to work out, maybe even a week or two, but stretching helps to maintain your muscles. Leg stretches are especially important to woman, as statistics show they are prone to knee and leg injuries much more often than men. Men tend to get Groin and back injuries. So they should focus on hips, and back stretches.

Couple stretching can be more fun than doing it alone, (sometimes early on any excuse to touch is good!) and doing this together when you come home after work at the end of the day is infinitely better than turning on the TV (although you can put it on if you must!)
Does anyone else have a jealous stretching partner
When is enough enough?

There are many reasons to break up. The worse reasons include adultery, Domestic violence, and robbery. Sometimes people simply grow apart. I have seen, and experienced all of these, troubled endings, personally or vicariously through my family members. What I have always tried to discern is why so many people, accept these conditions for years without confronting and trying to change them.

            The excuse most often expressed is “Because I love him/her” or “we have a child”. Someone who was very close to me used the latter so long that the child is almost an adult. But being in that environment, lead the child to develop many of the negative behaviors. So we are forced to wonder if it was the right choice. In my opinion it wasn’t. I think the only way people change behavior is being forced out of there comfort zone. The biggest reason this behavior exists, is because someone allows it. By breaking up or forcing someone out of the home you share you send an important message “I am NOT Going to take it!” Depending on the circumstance it
could just be temporary.

            Let me take another less extreme example, a friend of my wife’s lets call her N, after just gotten out of a long term semi-abusive relationship (semi-means it only happened when he drank).She got involved with a different guy, (with my wife’s urging) who turned out to be a player. The kind of busy guy that doesn’t call you until about 1:00 Am Friday night. When he orders her to call a cab and come over. For reasons I can’t quite fathom she keeps going back, even though he makes her pay for the cab!

Almost without fail, the next morning he gives her a speech explaining that his friends are very important, and that he has too much to do to be bothered with her silliness. If all this wasn’t bad enough, she finds e-mail after e-mail to other girls, sometimes mocking her. She calls my wife Trish with more and more stories. Trish feels responsible and wants to scream at the guy and beat him up. I think that’s useless, because this guy knows what he is doing, the same thing at least 50% of men would do. He’s getting his cake and eating it to, which is normal when your young adults (there both in there mid 20’s). I think it falls to N to stop making the booty calls if she wants some respect. But as she is fond of saying “I fell in love with him.”

So I ask who is to blame?

Also what are some of your reasons for staying in a bad relationship?
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