Months ago my first post was about a girl I called Miss N, I detailed how she keeps going back to a guy who mocks her and abuses her. Well she is still seeing him this is what I found out the other day.
The guy keeps numerous e-mail girlfriends all over (isn't that enough?). The other day, she was over at his house he was on the computer. She asked "What are you doing?" he responded with a smirk "Deleting mail from all my girlfriends" and laughed. He thought he was smart because he has his own password protected profile. Unbeknownst to him she knows the password. Sure enough smart ass deleted stuff but left it in the trash. The email was all about her to another girl, about how Miss N "forced herself on him" and he "has no feelings for her, but she is good enough to keep around and use",(mostly for $ and sex) and laughing " hahaha isn't funny how she don't know how pathetic she is", then he went on and on about how "beautiful" the girl he was writing to really is.
This pisses me off on so many levels, first this girl is a real genuine sweetheart, my wife has certain disabilities, and she looks out for her (they work together). Not to mention the girl is beautiful without knowing it, wifey says "its her eyes you get lost in them". What pisses me off, most is he acts so freakin superior, one of those wolves in sheeps clothing, lures you in with that nice guy shit, just to see other girls behind your back. Before any of this even happened, he would call my wife to talk about how much he loved Ms N, but I knew then what kind of guy he was. Guys don't really need that pillowtalk(maybe teens), I knew he just needed the ego boost of talking to girls all day.
Anyway does anyone have any suggestions on what to tell this girl? She keeps breaking up with him, just to go back!
I am sick of hearing about it, but wifey feels responsible cause she put them together
(yes she fell for his routine, much to my mixed dismay and amusement, for details read my first post)
I kinda wanna go beat him, and her, him just to take him down a noch, and her because she is foolish, and needs to wake up. Intllegently I doubt this would help so what would?
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beating them up wouldn't help, probably only bring them closer and make her think no one understands their love. tough situation, i think she needs to be broke hearted before she realizes. the girl is obviously in denial
Beating Mr Swine isn't going to help Miss N, Miss N needs plenty of support here. Her previous abusive relationship when compared to this one seems worse that's why she thinks that this one is more hopeful. She needs to be stronger and she needs something else to do. The feeling of being used is really bad and I don't get that she doesn't realize that. You know how they say that 'Love is blind". She seems so blinded by love that she neglects that she is the one being abused and used. Miss N needs a friend to seriously wake her up and show her that Mr Swine will always be a Swine. Maybe your wife or yourself and help out and just lay the truth on the table for her.
@principessadolce@xanga - this is just it, we have been going back and fourth trying for months, we tell her over and over, and everyday she asks "what should I do!" she just stays in the same circle, I just don't even get how she keeps a straight face when she asks!!
You basically just have to be a supportive friend. People generally don't change unless they want to, and this is basically an example of that. She is not going to get out of this relationship fully until she realizes that she deserves better and decides that she really wants to be treated better. Until she gets to that point in her own mind, she's not really going to listen to you. So you just have to keep being there for her and hope she gets the message soon.